Any takers...?

I was thinking today about what it takes to make a really good friend. A few months ago I was discussing this with a dear friend (who lives too far away) why it is that neither of us have made a truly close friend since leaving college. She has studied psychology and explained that one force that pulls us together is going through an experience together. Makes sense, military, residences, college roomies. And so on. But what makes a true friend with out these "experiences"? Similar values, interests, life stage and generally convenient to get together with. I have been living in Little Rock for over 7 years now and have had considerable difficulty turning up someone that I really connect with. There are lots of people that I can call on in a stressful time and need help, there are plenty of moms that I can call for a playdate, even couples or families that John and I enjoy getting together with for dinner. But the person who I can call when I have some kind of emotional freak out while Will is asleep (or awake!) and John is at work? Someone who can see me at my worst and I don't care? I'm not sure they live around here. I miss the friends who I could actually call family. Girls who I could call just to "hang out" with no plans. Someone to have coffee with, or just go to target or something. Every time I meet a female under the age of 40 I start thinking, "could this be my little rock bff??" And I get excited! But nothing ever seems to pan out. I put myself out there, I think. I invite, I conversate, maybe I annoy, who knows! But a good friend is hard to find. If it is someone with kids, then there are timing conflicts, if it's someone without kids, it's almost like we live on different planets. I just want someone who is available to me any time of day to hang out, have girl talk, mutually enjoy activities and fill that void I have been holding open! Any takers? I am glad I have a baby and a dog, they are about as loyal of companions as I could hope for.
The Psychologists found the same type of results were she lives. Things just never pan out to produce the deep connection that we yearn for. I am not trying to sound pathetic here. I have a loving husband who IS my best friend. But I would love a female friend to have around too. Maybe cloning will become less controversial and I can just duplicate the ones I love and keep them here at my house :) I might also try to find some "experience" to go through to forge some kind of bond with some unsuspecting stranger...So watch out citizens of Little Rock, you might be next on my "to do" list.